One of the best ways to teach our children, and something you hear us say often in the Redirecting Children's Behavior course, is modeling the behavior.   When we offer makeups to our loved ones, our children learn that this is a wonderful way to correct a mistake, right a wrong, or soothe a hurt.  When we use our pause button, our children learn to take a break when they get upset.  When we use our self-quieting space, our children learn the same technique.  We can tell children what we expect of them and what we want them to do, and we can demonstrate to them by our own actions.

If you want your children to:
Read:  let them catch you reading.  Turn off the TV and have a reading hour in the home. 
Eat healthy:   purchase and prepare healthy foods, and let them catch you enjoying fresh vegetables for a snack.  Create a 'happy hour' with fresh cut vegetables and low fat dips.    Go to the farmer's market with your child, and let them choose the vegetables for a meal.  Research low-sugar drink choices, and prepare fun, healthy drinks to replace high sugar sodas and juices.
Exercise:
invite them on a walk, hike, or bike ride.  Let them catch you scheduling in fun activities, and making exercise a priority in your life.
Engage in win-win conflict resolution:  use the technique when you are in a conflict with your child, and let them catch you using the technique with other adults.  Discuss how you used the technique at work.
Cooperate: cooperate with them, and let them catch you cooperating with your spouse, partner, and other family members. 
Respect their elders: let them catch you treating your elders with respect, caring for your parents and elder family members, offering companionship and assistance to neighbors.  Invite them to volunteer at a retirement home with you.  Help them offer a monthly gift of helping a grandparent around the home or in the yard.  Together with your child, interview their grandparents about your family, historical events from their youth, and other memories they want to share, and create keepsake books or audio or video files to honor them.
Care about learning: demonstrate your commitment to being a life-long learner.  Let them catch you researching a topic of interest online or at the library, share with them a book you are reading to expand your knowledge, and talk about training you receive at work.  Take a class, or complete a self-study project while your child is doing homework.

What other ideas can you come up with?

Actions speak louder than words   Ask yourself, if my children turn out just like me, would that be a good thing?  If not, what do I need to change?